tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27064468654811901622024-03-05T13:28:42.702-08:00A cord of three strands...Davidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-90261576829614626292016-02-29T10:49:00.001-08:002016-02-29T10:49:19.726-08:00Rare disease day<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Hi family and friends, it's Leah. I wanted to take a little time today to write about our sweet Eliana Jane. She has been such a joy to add to our family. Jeremiah loves his little sister, and she is finally getting big enough where we don't have to worry about him rolling her around and driving cars on her. :) She was 8 months old on February 22 and the light of our life.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">We have had some news in the last few months though, that has opened our eyes to new experiences in our family, and our new "normal. " Let's go back a few months. When Ellie was 2 months old, her pediatrician detected a slight heart murmur. We have since found out that it was pretty impressive she would notice this on a 2 month old. So we were referred to a cardiologist at Beaumont Children's hospital. We took our 2 month old down for a echocardiogram and EKG. They discovered that she has PPS (Pulmonary Stenosis-can't remember what the other P is for), where her heart pumps the blood too quickly through channels in her heart. It's ok, she might outgrow it. 2 Echos later every 6 weeks, it's still there, but nothing worse. Then he suggests we go see a geneticist to rule out some genetic conditions that could cause this. We go there and they send us to more specialists - an eye test, X-ray, abdominal ultrasound - fun stuff. :) Finally, we got clearance to do a chromosome blood test. Well, the pieces of the puzzle come together and we find out that Ellie has been diagnosed with Williams Syndrome at 4 months old. This is a chromosome disorder where she is missing part of the genetic sequence on the #7 chromosome. Now, this is where I must say - please don't Google Williams Syndrome. We haven't said anything about it to people really, because we don't want Ellie to be Ellie with Williams Syndrome. We just want her to be Ellie - God's perfect gift who is "fearfully and wonderfully made." She is not doing to be defined by this diagnosis. God has a plan for her, and He will see that plan carried out, we are sure. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">So, having said that, this diagnosis does come with some health complications. But, it also comes with some facial features and personality traits that make her who she is. Those beautiful eyes and face like a doll? Yep, that's a Williams characteristic. Her ability to make anyone and everyone smile when she smiles at them - also Williams. The fact that she is the most social baby I have ever seen, also Williams. She may also get a special love of music and ability to see the best in people and all situations. That's pretty cool too.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">The heart thing is staying stable, so that's good. The eye test and skeletal X-ray came back fine. Last week we got a call that her calcium levels were way too high from a recent blood test. (we knew there was a chance of this happening) This can be very bad, so we had to take her to ER at Royal Oak Beaumont and she was hospitalized for 5 days as they flushed the calcium out of her system. While we didn't love this complication, God took care of us and we had wonderful friends who watched Jeremiah and took care of things so we could be with Ellie. Now she is on a low calcium formula and we have added an endocrinologist and nephrologist to our cardiologist on her doctor list. But it's going to be ok. Ellie is ours for a reason and we will do everything within our power to be sure she has the best care and gets the best services. On Thursday a nurse will come and evaluate her in 9 different areas of development to see how she's doing. I think she's pretty remarkable, but I guess I'm biased. If there's anything that's not developing, we'll seek therapy for that. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">So there you have it, a quick introduction to Williams Syndrome on Rare Disease Day. Our sweet daughter has a diagnosis, and two parents that will fight and advocate for her for the rest of their lives. Oh, and a big brother with a heart of gold that will love her and defend her. Along with a wonderful network of family and friends for support, Eliana Jane Meyer has a great big God that made her perfectly for us and will give her a testimony that she can share about a diagnosis and how His perfect plan gave her an amazing life. We didn't get a "special needs child," we got a gift from God name Eliana Jane. And that's pretty special. :)</span><br />
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<br />Davidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-62501772929454560642015-09-15T13:15:00.000-07:002015-09-15T13:15:40.841-07:00Happy birthday to me!<br />
35 ... I'm 35 today. It's amazing how birthdays change as you get older, and how life gets so busy that it's hard to stop and reflect on the blessings that you've received in those years. So I'm going to do my best to stop and reflect for a moment. <br />
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Up until a few years ago, I had never known someone that shared my birthday with me. It was a day of celebration, sometimes a few more, and always great with friends and family. And now with FB reminding everyone of birthdays, I'm so blessed by all the amazing notes I got on my special day. But this year, September 15 has an even more meaning. Let me explain...<br />
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Last year, we had our "match" meeting with a young couple that was placing their baby for adoption. They were 15 and 16 years old. We smashed into a conference room with their families and promised to accept their baby and raise her as our own. I thought it was the best symbolism that this meeting would be on my birthday of all days! It must be meant to be! We went to dinner after and got the call that they liked us and we were matched! <br />
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Then as most of you know, and have read, after getting to know them for the next month, a baby girl was born on October 5, sent home with us on October 7, and asked to be returned to her birth parents on October 8. From the outside looking in, many would think that was the end of the story.<br />
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We are proof, that God never leaves us hanging in His plan for our lives. We named Jeremiah after Jeremiah 29:11 because God knew the plans He had for our lives, and they were plans to prosper and not harm us - give us hope and a future. Well after returning her, we waited longer than we expected and longer than we wanted ... but God matched us with an amazing young woman who noticed our story <u>because</u> we had a baby girl taken from us, and she could give us our baby girl. On June 22, she gave birth to that baby girl and on July 22, she signed the papers that placed Eliana Jane with us forever. I am amazed as I look back and see God's handprints on our entire story as He put together our family. Oh, and by the way. Eliana's birth mom turns 19 today, September 15 ...<br />
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Happy 35th birthday to me! I am blessed. :)<br />
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~Leah<br />
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<br />Davidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-13885491697596084992015-06-28T15:37:00.001-07:002015-06-28T15:44:00.597-07:00She's here!I have been thinking of how to put the last few weeks into words, and I am just overwhelmed with God's love and provision. So here is my attempt to explain.<br />
We met our second child's birth mom in March and were fortunate to be chosen by her. We had 3 months to get to know her and her family before the baby was due on June 10. We met for dinner, did play dates with her nephew and family with Jeremiah, and truly enjoyed spending time together and getting to know one another. After such a heartache in October, we stayed cautiously optimistic. Eventually we realized that we couldn't let the last attempt take the joy out of this one. It is a very emotional journey on both sides, as you can imagine, and we held on for the ride. <br />
The amazing birth mom's name is Brianna and many were able to meet and see her when her family attended our fundraiser in May. She stood up on stage with her family and Stephanie's family to show how open adoption has grown our family exponentially and the power of their decisions. <br />
I also had the privilege to go to an ultrasound. So cool! <br />
Brianna asked to be a part of naming the baby. When we gave her our list, she took the names into consideration but nothing really stood out. So we prayed and asked God to give us names with meanings that would belong to our daughter. We sent some more suggestions, and Brianna chose Eliana Jane for her name. Eliana means God has answered, and as beautiful as that was then, we had no idea that that meaning was going to be even more amazing in His time.<br />
Eliana was due June 10, as I mentioned before. So we cleared our schedules and got ready... Brianna's wish for Ellie was to have breast milk exclusively and she would provide milk for her as long as she could. Isn't she awesome?!? I was set up by a good friend to get donor milk (another amazing donation I never knew existed!) and we had a deep freezer full all ready for the big day.<br />
June 10, no baby.<br />
June 11, no baby ... I will spare you the rest - June 17, back to dr and no baby. June 18 Brii went in for a procedure to get things going, still nothing. Needless to say we were getting anxious and wondering when she was gonna make her entrance! Everyone we talked to said they couldn't believe they were waiting for 2 weeks to induce. This was so hard for us, because our hands were tied! But we waited.<br />
Monday morning at 1 am I got a text from her sister that she was in labor. We waited for more news and heard that Eliana Jane was born at 7:18am on June 22 weighing 6 lbs 7 oz. (and I thought my newborn clothes wouldn't fit when she was so overdue!!) Brii and her family took Monday with Eliana and we were able to go see her on Tuesday. We had a great visit and returned Wednesday to take her home.<br />
Now I can tell you why God made us all wait so long ...<br />
Our adoption journey truly began the summer of 2009 when David had his colectomy. If you haven't heard that story I'd love to tell you all about my miracle of a husband. But after sepsis, pulmonary emboli, 6 day coma and 2 month rehab, David wasn't able to father children anymore. David was not even expected to live through that. But 3 years later we were blessed with Jeremiah, who is named after Jeremiah 29:11 and started seeing God's plan for our family.<br />
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June 22, 2009, David's surgery. 6 years later ... June 22, 2015 Eliana Jane is born. God has completed our family and "God has answered". I don't think anyone could have planned it better.<br />
Thanks God. ~ Leah <!--3-->Davidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-91615787765736033472015-05-29T13:47:00.001-07:002015-05-29T13:47:24.520-07:00Heading into a new season!Keeping up with this blog sure was easier before our first gift (aka Jeremiah) became a very busy two- year old and has been keeping us on our toes! He is such a joy and we love every minute of being his parents. In fact, I just saw on my Timehop that it was 3 years ago tomorrow when we met Stephanie for the first time. Now three years later, I am literally living my dream of being a stay at home mom with the coolest kid ever. I really realized it yesterday when we took an impromptu trip to the Toledo Zoo with my best friend for the day ... something I never could have done if I was still working. It's the little things that I have really been reflecting on lately and the amazing love of God. Now we await another life changing event!<br />
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What an amazing few weeks it has been! As many of you know, we have been matched with an amazing expectant mom since March, and she is due with a little girl on June 10! It is amazing to look back over our adoption journey to all the ups and downs and see where He has brought us up to this point. In October, we were asking Why? and How could this happen to us? as we had to endure an "interrupted adoption." Now we see that we have a complete picture of what can happen with adoptions and we feel better equipped to help others that may be looking into adoption. <br />
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Last Thursday was our fundraiser at church. What an incredible night! It was a night that would not be possible without a supportive church, amazing friends and musicians and the best bakers around for some yummy desserts. If you were there, you saw the power of adoption and how it can change and grow a family exponentially. If you weren't there, I'm working on getting the video up so you can see what you missed. <br />
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Our heart is to share the beauty of not only adoption, but <u>open</u> adoption. In fact, we even introduced a non-profit organization we are starting called Miriam's Watch. Stay tuned for more information on that and check out www.miriamswatch.org as we grow this organization. Our first event will be a golf outing on September 12 at Heather Highlands in Holly! <br />
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But back to Thursday night, we were truly blessed from the fundraiser as we were able to raise three times as much as we did in the fundraiser we had for Jeremiah's adoption. It will go a long way in easing the financial burden that goes along with an adoption. So thank you to those that have supported us prayerfully, emotionally, and financially. We are continuing in our fundraising endeavor, so if you do feel led to support us, you can visit www.gofundme.com/davidandleahadopt. Thank you so much for following our story.<br />
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Then for the icing on the cake, last night we visiting Bethany Christian Services office to listen to Stephanie speak on a panel with another birth mom to "waiting" adoptive families. She is such an adoption advocate in so many ways, and really shows the reality of the birth mom's choice for their child. We are so blessed to have her in our lives, and it continued to push us toward our mission to show the beauty of open adoptions. We met another courageous birth mom who was there with the adoptive parents of her daughter and heard their story of open adoption, too. We never can get enough of hearing the amazing success stories!<br />
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-LeahDavidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-76820296737162793122015-04-04T12:01:00.000-07:002015-04-04T16:28:07.319-07:00We've been a little busy...The last few weeks have been an absolute blur. We have been busier than I can remember. <br />
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First, We have been keeping a little secret, but it's time to let the cat out of the bag. Some of you may have been able to pry it out of us by asking the ever so invasive question (pick up on sarcasm), "what's going on with your adoption?" <br />
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A few weeks ago we were matched again, to another wonderful young lady. She is pregnant with what we are mostly sure is a baby girl; due June 10. Last night, we had the pleasure of hanging out with her and her parents again. It was great to be able to talk and get to know them on a more personal level and in a more relaxed atmosphere than the adoption office. <br />
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We are so excited to expand our family exponentially yet again!<br />
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Second, the match has gotten our act in gear in raising funds for the adoption. If you would like to join us, we are going to be hosting a fundraiser at Faith Church in Waterford. The event is going to be a concert with desserts and prizes. We are still kind of putting it together, but are envisioning a celebration of adoption, with resources available to anyone who may be considering taking a leap themselves. It is going to be a free event and a love offering for our adoption fund will be taken. If you are interested in coming, you can find a flier in the sidebar<br />
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Finally, we have been dreaming of someday starting a nonprofit to grant funds to couples seeking open adoption ever since we began the adoption process with Jeremiah. We have tossed around ideas of what we could do, and what we would offer when that some day came when we were finally motivated to launch the organization. Well, it turns out that the some day is now. We are currently in the process of organizing our nonprofit, and hope to provide more information the night of our fundraiser. We are planning a golf outing for the organization on September 12, 2015, so mark your calendars and dust off your clubs! Thank you to everyone who has followed our story, given us words of encouragement, prayed for us, and/or donated. We appreciate the support so much!</div>
Davidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-28427825883996144222014-10-13T10:27:00.001-07:002014-10-13T11:29:51.381-07:00Peace that transcends understanding<div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;">
<span style="font-size: 13.5pt;">How are we doing? We are doing well. Strangely well.
Many people have approached us with this question, and are usually
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<span style="font-size: 13.5pt;">It's not that we are doing well because
we didn't love that little girl. We did. There is only really one
explanation as to why we are doing so well. That reason may be obvious to many that read this blog. There are some,
however, that don't know my God. He is the only reason that I can smile,
joke and laugh. He has granted us peace that transcends all understanding, just
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<span style="font-size: 13.5pt;">Philippians 4:6-7 says "Do not be
anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with
thanksgiving present your requests to God. And the peace of god, which
transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ
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a Roman prison. I think his troubles were at least as great as mine.
He not only had peace, he spoke to others about how great it was.<u5:p></u5:p></span><o:p></o:p></div>
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<span style="font-size: 13.5pt;">In my last blog I wrote about the support
all of our friends have given us. I don't want to diminish that love and
support in anyway. However, I said that we could not have made it through
without you, and that is wrong. No matter what our personal situation, we
have a friend in Jesus. We have a friend that will never let us down.
We have a friend that can carry your burden no matter how great. <u5:p></u5:p></span><o:p></o:p></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-size: 13.5pt;">This peace that Leah and I have is
miraculous, but it is probably the least of my God's promises. If you
don't know Him and want to, I would love to introduce you to my Best Friend.
Please email me at <a href="mailto:davidandleahadopt@gmail.com">davidandleahadopt@gmail.com</a><u5:p></u5:p></span><o:p></o:p></div>
Davidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-17566527007365975902014-10-10T06:18:00.001-07:002014-10-10T06:18:14.797-07:00The power of love, prayer, and positive thinking!Yesterday when I came to work, I had to gather myself in the parking lot before entering. Once collected, I walked through the doors and was greeted by hugs, one coworker gave me a note that her son had written for Leah and me. So much for trying to be professional.<br />
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Leah's announcement on Facebook has currently received 136 comments of love and support. My last blog post has been read over 500 times, almost double our previous most read blog, Jeremiah's announcement. I came home early yesterday to a house filled with flowers and fruit. We have been blessed by so many well wishes from calls, emails, and visits. One of our neighbors dropped off dinner for us last night. Needless to say, the outpouring of love from our friends and family has been overwhelming.<br />
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Jeremiah's birth family has had a saying as long as I've known them and I'm sure longer than that. Perhaps its not theirs, but they were the first ones I ever heard use it. One person would say "God is good!" to which the other responds "All the time!" I've always known it true, and thought it cute, but honestly it never really resonated with me until I needed to hear the "All the time!" Fortunately, these last few days we have heard it not just from Stephanie, but also her mother and father.<br />
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As I said in my last post, I know God has a plan, although sometimes its hard to see, but perhaps we have already seen it. If Leah and I just needed to endure this pain to see how loved we are, to witness our community come out in droves to show us that they care, that would be enough reason to me. I cannot tell you how wonderful you all have made us feel.<br />
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Yesterday afternoon, after much thought and prayer, Leah and I decided we were no longer going to be sad. We talked about how while we miss the sweet child we brought home, and we thought she was ours, she never was. Our child is out there. We, instead of being sad, will look with excitement to the day we get to meet him/her (hopefully her, we have a lot of pink now). Once we made this decision it was like a light switch. While we still get emotional when we see and hear your sweet thoughts, they are tears that stem from joy, not sadness or regret. We know this has a little to do with our mindset, and a lot more to do with the blanket of prayer you all have knitted for us. I cannot thank you enough. <br />
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I tell you all of that for two reasons. One, to try to show some minuscule portion of the gratitude that we have for all of you. Unfortunately, the English language (the only one I know) does not have the words to express how thankful we are. And, two, to tell you that we will try again. We originally wanted to wait for a couple of months to heal, and prepare to accept another family into our lives. However, thanks to all of you, we are ready. We don't want to miss out on any blessings, and we would much rather risk loving and losing again. I would write more, but I have to call our social worker to let her know the news, too. <br />
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Thank you again. We love you all, and would not be where we are now without you.<br />
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God is good... All the time!<br />
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Then tonight I gave her back. Now the privilege to give her away belongs to another man. Tonight he is that other man's daughter, and to me she is a child I got to love for a day. This journey that we have been on has been one of many ups and downs. I guess I was naïve to assume we were done with that. Despite the trials we have been through, this was the hardest day of our marriage... of our lives. <br />
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"If life has no valleys, then what good is the mountaintop."<br />
"We wouldn't appreciate sunshine, were it not for the rain"<br />
These are 2 of my favorites, although very similar, nuggets of wisdom for hard times. Many of my friends today have used these among others, as well as the always assuring fact that God has a plan. <br />
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I know all of these nuggets to be true, but somehow it doesn't make it any easier tonight. I am going to sleep <em>like</em> a baby this night. Unfortunately, I won't be sleeping <em>with</em> one.<br />
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Please pray for that little girls new daddy. Pray that he will lover her like I would, or better. Pray that he will introduce her to my God. <br />
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Please pray for that little girl. She was mine for but a minute, but she completely stole my heart. Pray that she grows up happy, healthy, and strong.<br />
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Most importantly, Pray for my family. My sweet broken wife. Pray that I can be the rock she needs to lean on. Pray that I can somehow make my loving son, who embraced this little girl, understand why she is not here tomorrow. Pray for healing.<br />
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One last note, I do find it truly miraculous, that the person that gives Leah and me the most joy in this hard time is named after Jeremiah 29:11<br />
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"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the lord. "Plans to prosper you and not harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future" - Jer 29:11Davidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-57310777001826234652014-07-01T19:34:00.003-07:002014-07-31T08:09:13.393-07:00We're published!!The last couple weeks have been very exciting in our new adoption journey. We have had our home study meetings with our social worker, we have been to a couple different adoption meetings to learn more about both sides of the adoption process. In these meetings we were able to hear others stories, fears and concerns as well as share our own story. It was really fun to have a platform to speak about our amazing story to couples that are truly interested. Then, just today, our good friend finished editing our profile video. Check it out <a href="http://youtu.be/crF5_RA6SZs" target="_blank">here</a>! <br />
It's crazy that all of a sudden we are right around the corner from being a waiting family again. We always know that when we are in the midst of things saying, how is this all coming together so well, that it is God's plan. It's exciting to think of our future birth-mother and wonder where she is in her journey right now. We really pray for a hedge of protection around her, as this may be a scary time. <br />
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Please continue to pray for all of us as we come to this new stage in our story. <br />
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Thanks,<br />
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David & Leah<br />
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Davidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-52426544689691119562014-05-14T13:15:00.000-07:002014-05-14T13:15:53.546-07:00It's about that timeI actually wanted to write this post on Mother's Day, but turns out... I was busy spoiling a couple mothers :-)<br />
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Leah and I have recently started the process of adopting Jeremiah's sibling. This is a decision that we knew we were going to make, but the timing of everything has been quite difficult to negotiate. I am sure these are decisions that all parents make, and I think it's funny when we try to plan things out. God already knows who Jeremiah's sibling is going to be. He already has the plan. Regardless of the theology, we have just completed our formal application. We are cleaning up a few loose ends, and then we will start the home study process again. Please pray for the timing of everything, as while we are excited, we are also pretty nervous about the whole process again.<br />
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After this last weekend, I am 100% confident that we are making the right decision. Friday night, we had friends come over and we did a lot of work on our adoption video. We are actually doing a live action video rather than a slideshow like we did last time. (hopefully its not hokey... I am trusting in my friend's talents!) Saturday was Birthmother's day. Leah, Jeremiah and I took Stephanie out to dinner. It is always cool to see these two women interact with Jeremiah. Nothing is sweeter than a mother's love. This kid has two women that have that bond with him. After dinner, we went to a local park to play, and show Stephanie how much fun this guy is on a playground. It was a great evening overall, and it was great to see and hear how well things are going for Stephanie. For Mother's Day, Leah and I went to brunch with Jeremiah, Leah's parents, and her aunt and uncle. I of course did what I do at any breakfast buffet, and gorged on all manner of breakfast food and desert! After brunch, the girls all went to a movie, Jeremiah slept, and I worked around the house. When they returned Leah and I took a bike ride to a different local park, and let Jeremiah play around again. He is obsessed with Basketball. He really wanted to shoot baskets on the big kid goal, but would not let me pick him up. It was pretty great. I tell you all of this to tell you that I love watching Leah love Jeremiah. I can't wait to see what she is going to do with a second child. Mothering is so very natural to her. She is patient, she is kind, she is love to both of us, but so sweetly to Jeremiah. <br />
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Please be prepared to tune back in if you are interested in our journey. As we move through this process and pray for our new birthmother, we will be keeping you updated as we go. <br />
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<br />Davidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-41803591814711837292012-09-05T08:22:00.002-07:002012-09-05T08:22:35.940-07:00A long journey ...Wow, what an amazing 11 days it has been! Thank you for all your prayers and support. We are so unbelievably blessed right now. Jeremiah is absolutely perfect and we are so in love. He is a wonderful baby, very laid back and loving. His smiles melt your heart along with his little voice. Our time at the hospital with Stephanie's extended family was amazing as we got to see her support system and the legacy of adoption that already exists in her family. It was a time I will never forget. <br />
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As I celebrate Jeremiah's arrival and download millions of pictures to facebook, I'm reminded of the last five years of our journey. We began trying for children over 5 years ago. We saw a specialist when things didn't work on their own. After shots, blood draws and too many appointments, we took some time off to just enjoy time as a couple. Then with David's illness in 2009, our door was pretty well shut. Once he became healthy again, we prayed about our options. We realized it was time to begin the process of looking into adoption. We spent a year and a half trying embryo adoption with more shots and appointments, waiting and big ups and downs. We knew that God had a plan for us, but it seemed so far away and hard to get to. <br />
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Meanwhile, during the last five years I watched so many people I knew having babies and growing beautiful families. Don't get me wrong, I was happy for them and am blessed by so many children in our friend and family circle. However, I would be lying if I said I didn't shed a few (or many at times) tears at their good fortune and our losses. If you've never dealt with infertility, it's exhausting, frustrating, heartbreaking and can really put you into a downward tailspin. Especially when people ask (with good intentions, I know), "when are you guys going to have kids?" or say "everyone should be a mother." It's excruciating when hope goes away. So even though I am now one of those annoying people posting pictures daily of her sweet baby, I want to acknowledge the sadness that people are facing out there when they see another baby that isn't in their family. If you have a story like ours, I know it is a lonely battle. But know that you're not alone. We have spent many years in the "valley" waiting for it to be our turn. If you ever want to talk, I'm here. We are proof on so many levels that God is good, all the time. :) He knows the plans He has for you, plans to give you hope and a future. Our sweet Jeremiah is here to remind us of this promise, and we are forever grateful.<br />
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Blessings,<br />
LeahDavidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-24284494524799036592012-08-25T00:58:00.001-07:002012-08-25T00:59:28.975-07:00On his way!<div><p>So...  After continually guessing, it looks like today is the day.  Stephanie went into labor late Friday night and we are expecting Jeremiah anytime Saturday morning.   It's almost 4:00am, and I am not tired in the least.  I can't believe we are finally here.  Our God has kept us in the palm of his hand, and guided our every step.  More details and pictures to come.   Lots and lots of pictures!</p>
</div>Davidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-90463997536303550442012-08-18T17:39:00.002-07:002012-08-18T17:39:19.066-07:00God's timingWow, it's been a busy summer! The "nesting" has been going on for awhile around here as we get all the baby items together for Jeremiah's arrival. We had three beautiful showers thrown by friends and family that have helped us get all the necessary things we <em>need</em> for him and many other things that are just so cute! David's family has also been showering us with gifts from around the country. We are so blessed to have all the support that we have had. Everything is on schedule at this point and we are eagerly awaiting the call or text that he is on his way. <br />
As we reflect over this process we see how strong God's presence has been along the way. He knew this plan long before we did and it is all coming together perfectly in His timing. We rejoiced when He brought Stephanie into our lives and began putting the pieces together to add to our family. But now as it gets so close, we struggle with praying for <u>our</u> will instead of His! But we are human and just excited. :) So now when it really counts, we pray that we step back and "not my will, but yours be done." God knows what He's doing and is good ... all the time. (right Stephanie) ;) So please pray for the sweet baby that is on his way into this world and for the beautiful young woman who will give him life. Thank you, God, for this blessing.<br />
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LeahDavidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-12620528983816886732012-06-19T14:58:00.001-07:002012-06-19T15:03:50.420-07:00What's in a name?<div><p>When David and I began planning for kids, we had the usual discussion of boy names and girl names. Since he is a III (3rd) we thought about continuing that tradition. He comes from Henry Davids and Harold Davids. We thought we might modernize things a bit and go with Haiden David. But, one day when we were going through our heartache with failed pregnancies and such, David felt as though God gave him a name for our son. Little did we know he would be arriving sooner than later. Well, David was reminded of my favorite Bible verse, "For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord. Plans to prosper and not harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future." This verse has comforted us through the tough times that led us to this joyous occasion.  The verse is Jeremiah 29:11. Thus the inspiration for our son's name: Jeremiah David Meyer :) ETA August 24, 2012</p>
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I remember, when I was small enough to fit there, cuddling up in the crook of my father as he was lying on his side on the floor watching tv. I was trying to lay there and watch tv just like he was. Its the first memory I have of me trying to be like him, but I am sure it isn't the first time I tried, and it certainly isnt the last.<br />
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I remember sitting in his office with him "helping" him fill out his expense reports. He spent a lot of time in memphis, and we would abbreviate memphis "MEM." My job was to right MEM, MEM, MEM, MEM across the top of the reports. At least thats the way I remember it. Honestly, I probably just sat there and talked about Mario Brothers while he did all of the work.<br />
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Speaking of it, I remember playing Mario Brothers with him all day on Christmas. We kept trying to figure out how long you could keep flower power. We had determined that you could use it for 3 fireballs. Then we learned that it just took 3 fireballs before we ran into something, that would of course rob us of our fire throwing abilities. <br />
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We played alot of sports. We would shoot hoops in the driveway. Play catch with a baseball for what seemed like hours. And my favorite... I would run a "down-out- down" route around a tree, and my dad would hit me with the perfect pass, just out of the reach of the defending tree's hands.<br />
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I thought he was crazy when he told me there was someone better for me... after Laura, after Jackie, after a different Laura, and after Allison. He was right. He's just about always right, I think I get that from him.<br />
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He has made the perfect transition from a authoritative figure in my life to a wise counsel. He is an affluent businessman, loving husband, and an amazing dad. I couldn't ask for a better role model as my child is on his way. I can only hope I can be half the dad to my son, that he was to me.<br />
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I love you, Dad.<br />
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DavidDavidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-50241268871944679952012-06-07T11:08:00.001-07:002012-06-07T12:23:49.215-07:00Blessed Beyond Measure<span class="wordsofchrist ie_last_child">"Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."</span><br />
<span class="wordsofchrist ie_last_child"> -Luke 6:38</span><br />
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<span class="wordsofchrist ie_last_child">When I think of this verse I think of lawn bags. Have you ever been up to your elbows in leaves shoving them into the bottom of a lawn bag to try and fill it to its absolute capacity? You shake it up, and maybe even hop in and jump on it. All of this so that when you finish filling it leaves are still coming up out of the top and no one could ever close the bag. This is how I picture the blessings this verse speaks of. This is how I was blessed last night. </span><br />
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<span class="wordsofchrist ie_last_child">Financially we did very well at Buffalo Wild Wings. If you are curious, between the fundraiser itself, and donations made directly to us we raised over $1500.00 last night. This was certainly an amazing blessing, but we were blessed in ways I never saw coming. </span><br />
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<span class="wordsofchrist ie_last_child">The day started when Leah's friends from high school showed up for lunch. I am not sure where all of them lived, but I know one of them is from a little over an hour away. Then it was a couple of our friends from bible study. Then some of Leah's family (her cousins son - about 4 years old - donated $.80 to us... too sweet), from about 45 minutes away. Then it was many of my friends from the Waterford business community. I noticed a friend from church in the lobby, and suddenly there was about 15 of them all ready to eat together. They actually waited to leave for vacation so they could come support our cause. Before long, the entire room was filled with friends, family, and I even saw some of our flyers on tables for people I had never met. </span><br />
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<span class="wordsofchrist ie_last_child">As things were just getting crazy a very special young lady walked in with her parents. Stephanie, our birth mother, came with her parents to support our cause. We were able to sit with her and her family for probably about an hour and a half. We had great conversation, and they were able to meet Leah's family and some of our dearest friends. </span><br />
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<span class="wordsofchrist ie_last_child">Last night we were blessed in good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over.</span><br />
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<span class="wordsofchrist ie_last_child">Thank you so much for your support and for your prayers!</span>Davidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-71725819315584146202012-06-05T08:30:00.001-07:002012-06-05T08:30:33.728-07:00Its Fundraising TimeI am trying to find every single avenue I can to annoy mostly the same people with the same flyer. But for the few of you that haven't seen it at one of my other functions. Please remember that our Buffalo Wild Wings fundraiser is tomorrow! Please print and bring the following flyer with you when you go, and we will receive 20% of your sales. All proceeds go directly to our adoption agency. Thank you, and enjoy the wings!<br />
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I get confused when I play chess, movement of my sixteenish pieces versus my competitors just becomes too much for my feeble brain to handle. The truth is... I get confused playing checkers. Our God, however, is able to perfectly maneuver the 3.5 billion lives on this planet, in addition to the innumberable people that have been here before us and are yet to come. There is nothing more beautiful, more miraculous, than seeing God's plan form before you out of what you thought was mere rubble. A great pastor once said that our lives are like mosaic tiles, all we see is one shade of a jagged ceramic, but our God sees the entire beautiful masterpiece.<br />
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When Leah and I were trying to get pregnant in 2007, He knew about her. When I moved to Chicago in 2008, He knew about her. When I got sick in 2009, He knew about her. When we found out I could never father children n 2010, He knew about her. When Leah miscarried twice, in 2011 and earlier this year, He knew about her. Tomorrow, let me say that again, because it sounds so beautiful, so miraculous. Tomorrow, we get to meet her!<br />
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-DavidDavidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-29353379870898194412012-05-28T18:16:00.000-07:002012-05-28T18:16:38.705-07:00Fear vs. LoveIt never ceases to amaze me that when you truly let God be in control, He never lets you down. When we went to church yesterday, I was praying that God would speak to us and He really did. The message was all about fear and how it keeps us from doing the things that we are meant to for God. This really spoke to me because of my personality. I am a pretty shy person that enjoys living in my comfort zone. It takes a lot for me to step out of this comfort zone, but looking back I can see how it has allowed God to work in my life. Here's what I mean:<br />
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- first teaching job, took a long-term substitute job teaching 8th grade math - <em>I don't want to teach middle school!</em> <br />
- took only 3 weeks to get a call for a full time job teaching the same grade and subject in the district where I went to school<br />
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- 3 years later, was transferred to the elementary school teaching 4th grade - <em>I don't know how to teach elementary school - that's 4 subjects in the same day!!</em><br />
- made some amazing friends who got me through it and I'm finishing my 6th year teaching elementary school - 4th grade being my favorite grade<br />
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- living in a nice condo, but small for my taste, hoping for more - <em>We can't put it on the market in this economy!</em><br />
- plus, David got a job in Chicago in the middle of the school year - <em>I can't leave my job halfway through! </em><br />
- we ended up living apart for 6 months (hardest 6 months of my life at that point), but when he got laid off, I still had a job and we bought our dream house and rented out the condo!<br />
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- David had health complications - <em>What if something goes wrong in surgery?</em><br />
- had the surgery, something DID go wrong, God gave us a miracle and a glimpse at His power and will that I had never imagined before. David is better than ever now and it ended up being for the best (despite the fear that went along with it).<br />
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- decided to start a family - <em>Why isn't it working? What do we do?</em><br />
- tried doctors, embryo adoption, suffered losses of two miscarriages ...<br />
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But now here we sit, feeling more in God's will and timing than ever before. All of that fear was replaced with the amazing agape love of God - unconditional and unchanging. We have been given an incredible opportunity to share this crazy story with people and show God's love for us. So thanks to all these circumstances I have been taken out of my comfort zone and forced to stand up to fear and instead choose God's love. He knows what He's doing, and I just need to hang on and enjoy the ride.<br />
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Leah<br />
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Here's the message, if you want to hear it...<br />
<a href="http://hisriver.net/sermons/index.php?function=view&id=3385#.T8QdvfdSMkA.blogger">River Church // 3385 - Fear vs. Love</a><br />Davidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-90129623227209706022012-05-24T14:20:00.002-07:002012-05-24T14:20:47.243-07:00The phone call...A few weeks ago we went to a meeting for waiting families, and one of the Adoptive fathers mentioned that every time his phone rang from a (248) number his heart would skip a beat. I thought it was a little silly until we became an approved waiting family. We are in the (248) area code, so just about all of my phone calls come from a (248) area code. Today, though, it seems that I received 100 phone calls from numbers that weren't stored in my phone, and each one took my breath away. At about 3:00 this afternoon my hopes were answered as the voice on the other end of the phone was an adoption counselor from Bethany Christian Services. She was calling to let us know that our adoption book had been shown to a young mother-to-be, and she really liked our book. There is a lot of paperwork to do before she can officially choose us as adoptive parents, and hopefully in the meantime she won't find someone better. I will keep you updated as we find out more information, which will hopefully be early next week. <br />
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Thank you so much for all of your prayer over the last several months, and you are not done yet! Please, please, please keep praying for us, this sweet, young mother, and her baby. I hope and pray that they are the addition to our family that we have been praying for.<br />
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-DavidDavidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-18515434975453742072012-05-23T13:32:00.002-07:002012-05-23T13:33:21.159-07:00Almost summer!Well, the end of the school year is near and I'm getting very excited for what the summer has to bring. I'm looking forward to the possibility of hearing that we have a baby on it's way to us! Now that our book and profile are available for birth moms to look at, who knows how long (or short) it could be. It's crazy, because I don't really know how the whole "nesting" thing works when there isn't a 9 month timetable... I had never really thought about that before, but luckily God knows the timing and it's always perfect. :) <br />
We had a great weekend with family and friends and it makes me smile as I think about outings with a new baby. I can't wait for him or her to become a part of our extended family and grow up to play with our friend's kids. I am excited for all the possibilities that are in store and I'm ready for them to begin!<br />
Thanks, as always, for your support through blog messages, facebook, in person, and in prayer. We look forward to seeing you at the fundraiser on June 6th if you're able to make it. <br />
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LeahDavidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-39903302589818327562012-05-16T10:51:00.000-07:002012-05-16T10:52:00.342-07:00And now we are even more famous!I checked today and our profile has finally appeared on the Bethany website: <a href="http://waitingfamilies.bethany.org/home/michigan/david-and-leah">http://waitingfamilies.bethany.org/home/michigan/david-and-leah</a>... They have not yet posted our video, but you have all already seen that... if not... look below! <br />
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We also went to a "waiting families" meeting last week with several other waiting families. They had 2 adoptive couples, as well as two birth moms, and one of the dads. It was very cool to hear the different perspectives from both sides of the adoption. It was also nice to hear that several of them had the same fears we are having. We are terrified of a failed adoption. Having already miscarried twice, we don't know if we could handle the grief of an adoption that falls through. It was very nice to have the adoptive parents speak, as both couples had at least one failed adoption, and were able to speak kindly of the situation. It seems as though once you are matched and have a baby at home, all wounds are healed. I so look forward to that day. <br />
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The thought is quite crazy that we could be parents tomorrow! Realistically, the agency is estimating 12-18 months, but if a birth mother likes us tomorrow, we could be matched that quickly. Keep praying for our birth mother. This process is obviously going to be very tough for her. Also, please pray for our hearts. That he will protect our family, and make us whole very, very soon!<br />
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Thanks!<br />
David<br />
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AND DONT FORGET ABOUT THE FUNDRAISER JUNE 6TH. PRINT OUT THE FLYER BELOW AND BRING IT WITH YOU!!!!Davidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-47253564926915433992012-05-01T19:28:00.001-07:002012-05-15T16:15:56.899-07:00I guess that means we're famousA whole lot of progress today. First of all, our homestudy is now approved and we are officially a waiting family with Bethany Christian Services. Secondly, we completed our preliminary education requirement, and turned that in along with our photobooks. Finally, the reason we are famous.... We are now on YouTube. We completed our video profile for the adoption. Feel free to share this video with as many people as you feel comfortable. This is one of the main ways we are able to market ourselves to potential birthmothers. Quite often they visit the youtube videos before they even venture into an adoption office. So the more people... the better!<br />
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Thank you for all the continued prayer. And now, the wait begins...<br />
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<iframe width="420" height="315" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/ZlD0TmgoVgk" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe>Davidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2706446865481190162.post-85504732136494996862012-04-30T10:59:00.002-07:002012-04-30T10:59:35.643-07:00Adoption Update 4/30/2012Hello Everyone! I know it has been a while since our last post. Unfortunately not a lot has happened in regards to the adoption process. We are still waiting on our homestudy to be approved, also we have to complete several hours of education, so we have been spending alot of our nights reading. The book we are reading is called "The Connected Child" and it is all about the psychological struggles of children who are adopted. It has been amazing to learn that there are developmental difficulties even for children that are adopted at birth. Some of the potential malnourishments, even from the womb, can create subconscious fears in a child as they grow up. We are learning all about how to recognize, manage and overcome those fears. It is actually a very interesting book, and I think one that could apply for all children, not just those of an adopted family. <br />
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We also have been truly blessed this past week to receive a few large donations to our cause. It never ceases to amaze me the generosity of those that love us, and some that have never even met us. I came into the office last week to make copies of the fundraiser flyers and ran into the ladies that wash our coffee pots for us. Since I had some with me I figured I would give them a few copies. One of the ladies was even so nice to invite some friends. One of her friends is excited about our adoption and wants to contribute. She can't make the fundraiser, but wanted to know how she could go about donating. What an amazing woman! I have not, and probably will never meet her, but she has truly blessed my family! Thank you so much for all of your continued prayers for fundraising and our baby. I have a friend who recently raised money for a missions trip. She blogged several times that she had no idea where the money was going to come from, but was just trusting in God. I thought I understood how that would feel to see God work that way, but I was clueless. It is truly amazing to watch Him unfold His plans before your very eyes. <br />
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Thank you and keep praying. We will see you on the 6th... don't forget the flyer!Davidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02775418790313729260noreply@blogger.com0